It Has Been A Year
Last week, I was watching Moms (at QTV) and I could not help NOT cry with the other mommies who were guests at the show. They have also experienced miscarriages and they somehow expressed what I am feeling inside. I loved what Rita Avila said when people seem to always say the wrong things to her. She actually made a book about what to say when you approach a person who is grieving. Let’s face it, we do not really know what’s the best approach to a person who has just lost someone right. So if you feel the need to say something, read the book first. Personally, i would rather you not say anything. Just a pat on the back or a small smile will do.
Basically, this is what struck me the most and what I have always wanted to say to people who tell me I should move on since it has been a year. She said…”Never say, get over it because it has been a year already. Remember, I am a mom who has lost a child, and how can you get over something like that”.
i havent watched that nor read the book but in my opinion - it will never be over. that tug of pain and emptiness will always be there (forever) especially that it’s the child of your womb and it’s still ok.
Hi sis.. nakakarelate ako having gone through a miscarriage and a failed adoption. People will automatically think nakarecover ka na and that the new baby is the replacement. Di ko rin makalimutan ang hirit nung isang kamag anak ng asawa ko dun sa burol nang SIL ko. Buti ka nga anak LANG ang namatay ako asawa. Mas masakit mamatayan nang asawa kaysa anak. Oh Gosh!!! grabe!!
i know arlene, it still hurts. and the only people who can totally understand are those who went thru the same thing.
naku leirs, grabe naman yang hirit na yan. ako naman hiniritan ako ng dati kong officemate na ang swerte ko daw at naka maternity leave ako dahil nagkamiscarriage ako. Imagine sabihin swerte daw?!?!?! Parang may topak anoh?